Life After Losing A Child

"It does not appear to make a difference whether one’s child is three, thirteen or thirty if he dies. The emotion in each of us is the same. How could it be that a parent outlives a child?" - Harriet Sarnoff Schiff

The death of a child goes against the natural order we expect life to follow. The loss carries with it the loss of the future, the hopes, dreams, and potential that can never be fulfilled. The longing for the child and the feeling of emptiness can last a lifetime.

This is one of the most devastating experiences a person can go through. Grief reactions after the death of a child are similar to those after other losses. But, they are often more intense and last longer. You may experience the following grief reactions: Intense shock, confusion, disbelief, and denial, even if your child's death was expected.

It is completely normal to feel the way you do, dont hide it and dont try to be strong, show your emotions and let it out. Here are a few things that may help you cope with your loss:

1) Allow yourself to feel and express your emotions: It's important to acknowledge and express your emotions in a healthy way. This could mean crying, talking about your feelings with a trusted friend or family member, or writing in a journal.

2)Take care of yourself: It's important to take care of your physical and emotional well-being during this difficult time. This may include getting enough sleep, eating well, and engaging in activities that bring you comfort and relaxation.

3) Seek support: It can be helpful to talk to a therapist or join a support group for people who have experienced a similar loss. Sharing your feelings with others who understand what you're going through can be very comforting.

4) Find ways to remember and honor your child: This could include creating a memory book, planting a tree in their honor, or participating in a memorial event. Finding ways to remember your child can help you find some comfort and healing.

It's important to remember that everyone copes with grief differently, and there is no "right" way to go through the process. It's okay to take things one day at a time and do what feels right for you.